Sex and work life clash all the time, women have to juggle a lot between career and family. Men also have things to contend with at home and office too.
We know that it is close to impossible for work not to interrupt with our sex lives. Say for instance, you’re in the middle of a blowjob and your boss starts calling or a high profile client starts ringing you or say you just got promoted, there are chances that you have to put a brief stop to the sex and deal with the work.
Asides from this, even with your partner or you, if there is a downward trend to his/her life, their performance in bed can be affected meaning invariably they can both impact each other. We already know if you’re having good sex, chances are high that you’d have rewarding sex life.
Jamie Hergenrader of Women’s Health has highlighted what the work problem can be and how to deal with it.
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You were recently promoted
This is a good news, no doubt. Asides from the celebratory sex, sex from now on might not be as great as before. With more power comes more responsibilities, the new position might eat up a lot of your time. Most times, women juggle a lot of things at the same time, and during this time, sex won’t exactly be on that list.
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How to deal with it
The solution will mostly reside with you than your partner. Relax yourself, go and do some of the activities that help you relax, after you’ve done this then ask your man to help lessen your burden in the relationship. “You’re likely always going to have some amount of stress in your lives, so you need to build an environment that allows you to be sexual,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and sexuality counselor in New York City. Also try to take out distractions from the bedroom, like digital devices, only stuff that are erotic.
He doesn’t have a job anymore
It is hard to detach men’s frame of mind and their sexual performance, if he’s settled psychologically, then his performance in bed will be fine. “Our society teaches men to be performance-driven,” says Megan Fleming, Ph.D., a New York City sex and relationships expert. “His ability to perform at his job and in bed are tied up in his identity.” When this happens, his level of cortisol increases, known as stress hormone, which makes erection difficult because blood vessels are not allowed to pump blood like before.
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How to deal with this
The best way to look for ways to relieve the stress. “The foundation of arousal is relaxation,” says Fleming. Find something you enjoy doing, and do it well to alleviate the stress. Give him a sensual massage or even just a long hug (at least 20 seconds), suggests Fleming to the partner, this can help release oxytocin that can help increase the bond.
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