This is new, sex coaches are becoming the latest sensation, here is an experience of what it feels like to have one.
Yes, you read it right, a sex coach, It’s not mainstream yet, but some people have started incorporating this in their life. The job of a sex coach is to help you better your bedroom experience by prescribing methods and spices you can use in the bedroom.
For the curious minded people, he doesn’t have to be there with you while you have sex but I’m pretty sure some weird people won’t mind the coach being around to tell them how to ride or thrust.
For a more detailed explanation of what a sex coach can do for you. A lady named Caroline narrated her experience to Ronnie Koenig at Prevention, read and enjoy what she understood of the experience.
Caroline* had just turned 40 and been married for 19 years when she decided to improve her sex life. So she hired a sex coach. This is what it was like.
My husband and I had a pretty good sex life, but after having kids I was ready to bring back the excitement. Before kids, sex had been a priority, but after they were born it seemed like my husband was more interested than me. Between being a mother and working, I just had very little left to give. I didn’t have a lot of emotional hangups about sex, I just thought that maybe I had more to learn. My husband and I married young and didn’t have a lot of experience with other partners before we met.
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Once I started to think about what a good sex life would be like, I began reading romance novels—and it surprised me to find that I still had erotic feelings—it started my engine. I even wrote my husband some erotic letters, describing things we had never done together. Honestly, I think it made him nervous at first.
That’s when I started reading Betty Dodson’s blog (she’s a masturbation guru and author of Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving) and learned about sex coach Eric Amaranth, who had studied under Betty for 10 years. I decided to work up the courage to contact him.
Meeting My Sex Coach
Eric isn’t a sex therapist, and working with him wasn’t like a typical psychotherapy session. Instead of talking about my feelings surrounding sex, Eric’s coaching work is more about sexual techniques and practical application.
Getting Personal
His advice was very specific and technical. For example, my husband and I were going away for the weekend, so Eric helped me design a role-playing scenario for us in which I was the nurse and my husband was the patient. It allowed me to play the dominant role and tell my husband exactly what to do, and he got to enjoy not being in charge. When I told Eric that my husband and I had never tried anal sex, he gave me some tips on how to make it work. My husband was very receptive to trying it, we took it slow, and it felt great. Eric also gave me direction on what makes a good blow job. That might seem weird, but it was actually very technical information.
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We did about 10 Skype sessions over the course of 10 months, so that I had time to try out what we had talked about before we met again. Eric also recommended certain sex toys for me, like vibrators and bondage ropes. But it never felt like he was hawking a product. Before I contacted Eric I was reading a lot of books on sex, but the information in a book is so general compared to sex coaching.
Trying New Tricks
My husband knew I was doing sex coaching, but he wasn’t really into participating. He’s shy, and I’m the assertive one in the relationship. However he definitely reaped the benefits! I’d say to him, “Oh, I had my call today,” and then we’d try things out.
People are reluctant to talk about sex outside the bedroom. So Eric was like a buddy for me. Since, I never had close girlfriends that I could talk about this stuff with, my sister was the only person I told that I was doing sex coaching. We giggled about it, but that was really the extent we discussed it.
Six years later, my husband and I still incorporate some of the things I learned from the coaching into our sex life, including the blow job technique, a sex position that we really like, how to use G-spot stimulation during oral sex, and the anal sex technique. Overall, we just talk a lot more about what we want, and try to incorporate touching and a little dirty talk into our day.
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Sex coaching isn’t just for kinky people. My husband and I are pretty mainstream. I was just ready to be more adventurous. The experience helped me look at my body as an instrument, and made me stop taking everything so seriously.
The bottom line: If you want a spicier sex life, then you need to create the spice!
*Names have been changed
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