After watching the movie, Think like a man, Act like a lady(woman), I thought to myself, this movie to me is just for laughs. I am one of those people who love to believe what we see in movies but not this one.
I am that guy that will argue it out with people when they scream Jet Li uses rope alot or his movie tricks are too much, I like this situation because it gives me the chance to boast about how much I have read about this people. Jet Li is so good that he was once asked to be Fmr. U.S President Richard Nixon’s bodyguard, if you doubt it, the internet is your friend .
Back to the reason why we’re here, the movie chronicles the lives of different people and how the book advises them on how to deal with relationship issues.Certain principles were spoken about, the short and long term self goal, the 90 days rule, how to get a man to commit. What caught my attention was the 90 days rule. I have always said I would write on it but never have but today is that day.
Read this carefully, the 90-day rule is shitty and not worth your time. IMO (In my opinion) For the lovers of the book and the movie, am sure you wont agree with me. Let me give you my own reasons.
The biggest reason why you consider the 90 days rule in the first place is because you feel he can’t pretend that long right? Sweetie, you must be a learner?
People pretend for decades!
We’ve heard of different people who appear shy, simple and quiet, meanwhile they’re fathering children with other people’s wives, people are never who they seem to be. Some people have divine gift of pretense. Their deeds only come out after their death. It takes the grace of God for you to be able to decipher between who is real and who isn’t but if you think you can resolve that issue with 90 days rule, you’ve got something else coming.
I personally don’t recommend it to anyone, you know why? I’ll tell you, it is because the world has become deceptive these days. You really want a guy to wait 90 days to have sex with you? Yes?
One quick question; what do you think will happen when the 90 days expire and you’ve had sex? Will you feel better about yourself, what’s the next step? Marriage?
My point is a guy will leave you if he wants to leave you even at the slightest provocation, something as infinitesimal as you not picking his calls. Yes! I have seen it happen.
There is absolutely no guarantee that after having sex with him after 90 days that the relationship will move ahead, afterall 90 days is like 3 months. Am sure you know someone who has been asking a girl out for way longer than that? No? Anyways, with the 90 days rule, nothing is guaranteed, forget the happy ending the movie had, this is real life and real issues happen!
I can bet you if you ‘jam’ an advanced player, you might view things differently…
Now, let me define an advanced player to you, he isn’t the one that has slept with one person in the neighborhood and boasts about it at the neighborhood bar, he is that guy that has slept with more than 60% of the girls in the neighborhood without either of them knowing about the other girl, and this sick douche still manages to keep his home happy and fun.
He is the kind of guy that wont bother you for the sex the first time you visit him, he will bide his time and wait patiently because he knows there is a probability that if he has sex with you on the first date, you might disappear. He’s the kind of guy that will wait for the third date and will make sure he makes the pussy his own for the next couple of months until you finally read between the lines.
He isn’t stingy, he will spend on you, he will give you what you want and when the time comes to break up, he will have you believe its your fault and not his. You will cry about losing such a man whereas after the breakup is when you’ll realize that he has slept with 7 of your friends.
Do you think with this type of guy, 90-day rule is a problem? I think not!
As a bad guy, he can even decide to run 2 or 3 girls concurrently; no rule is the perfect rule to blissful relationship.
Ladies most times use this 90-day rule because their ex was a total douche, you want to be careful else you fall for another bad guy. Taking out the frustration of your ex on a totally new guy isn’t ideal.
So, to take out your frustration, you give him the 90 day rule, well, it might work and it might not but I am for the it might not work campaign.
I think the most appropriate way to deal with this is to do it when its right not when a book tells you what is right, as what works for A might not work for B.
The right time may be 30 minutes or 3 years depends on your person.
Some ladies have been successful with the 90-day rule while others have failed woefully.
Use your heart in conjunction with your brain.
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